When a couple comes to me for help with their relationship, I am honored to be invited into this extraordinarily important part of their life. I work collaboratively with couples to help them establish a secure attachment, to avoid negative ways of interacting that pull them apart, and to help each partner find ways to be open to their partner's needs for independence and for loving connection. Often this requires repair of past hurts, taking time to be with each other without distraction, and finding ways to feel appreciation and communicate it to each other.
Along with many others in the field of couple therapy today, I understand a couple relationship to be an adult attachment in which each partner hopes to find a safe haven and to feel loved and secure. My work with couples and my teaching about couple therapy is most influenced by the empirically-validated Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy formulated by Susan Johnson. I have extensive training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and I am a Certified as an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and as a Supervisor of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapists. And, I am Certified by the International Center for Excellence in EFT (ICEEFT) as a Trainer of therapists who are learning EFT.
In couple therapy, I will help couple discover their patterns of negative interactions, and focus on their emotional experience. I will work with each partner to make explicit that which is often not spoken, and help couples talk together about each of their hurts, their needs and their wants.